One of the main threads in all my coaching, seminars and programs I lead is to help people reflect. And to do it in a way that creates insight so that although nothing changes on the outside, yet life looks very different.
It fascinates me that a situation, circumstance or person can suddenly look different, without changing anything. That our human experience can suddenly change without the circumstances needing to change;
• What previously stressed us can suddenly feel quite ok
• The behavior of a person who has annoyed us can suddenly evoke our compassion
• Work that previously felt boring can suddenly feel fun
• Where we used to be unclear and confused, we can suddenly experience clarity and just know what to do next
• And worry can be exchanged with peace of mind.
You can feel different, very different - without the circumstances changing at all, and in the blink of an eye!
And yet isn’t it interesting that many of us go about trying to change an experience we do not like. We do all we can to change the circumstances or the situation we are in. We try to change the person, we change our job, we work to get rid of a task or just plain avoid it, or we work to produce something on time. We do lots of things to change the circumstance or to get somewhere, which we believe will make us feel better than we do right now…
And yet, what I pointed to earlier is that experience and feeling can change in a moment - without the circumstances needing to change.
So, how does this work?
This works by having insight into two principles of human psychological functioning, which have the power to change our experience of being alive and of our life.
One -Your mind creates your experience from within. What you are experiencing moment to moment is not your circumstances, rather it is how your mind thinks about the circumstances.
Two -Your mind has a built-in design for well being, solutions, creativity and great results.
And the value of seeing this for yourself? Your life and work become much more productive and satisfying the more clearly you see these two principles in your everyday life.